Contemplation Of A Lover - Redux

I have contemplated how, where, and when I would meet someone with whom I could develop a relationship with to enjoy special times together. I think the initial contact would best be a spontaneous thing, because I do not want a contrived set up that would have the feel of a blind date. I’d rather go for an evening out with Alex and simply be open to the experience happening, or not. If it did, I would prefer it be some place away from home, but if it happened at our favorite spot for evening drinks, that would be OK too, because I wouldn’t be obvious with my intensions, or flirting. If “the one” walked in through the door, I’d maybe strike up a conversation and invite him over to our table. Of course any chance meeting would have to be with Alex, because we’re in this together. If I met a potential playmate somewhere myself first, I’d go back and tell Alex and discuss how we might find a way to get to know that person better. I think a chance meeting at a night club dancing with Alex is possible, even though we don’t go out to clubs very often. Popular functions like a music or food festival could work, but not through an organization or function where we are in the company of people we know….at least not the first time. Over time, depending on the circumstances, we may become comfortable with our three-some in public.

I think for this to work we would have to get to know the other person as a friend first. I’d have to get a sense of his personality, and openness to a special arrangement within my marriage and make sure I haven’t over-read the situation. I wouldn’t want to scare him off! We would have to spend time together to get a sense if we could really just like each other, and maybe develop a close relationship. Alex would have to like him too, but I would take the initiative in building the relationship, and send the signals myself. I don’t want Alex to be my “set up” guy. For looks and style, I like men who are handsome and metro sexual to a degree, but still masculine, like Alex. I’d like a guy who would be very warm and a bit touchy-feely, and make me laugh. I love cologne on men, so he would have to smell good. For style points I particularly like the flair of a Johnny Depp. Once we established a solid comfort level, and the simpatico of a deeply fond friendship, then we could start in on a more intense interaction.

Getting ready for the “first date” without Alex would require a pedicure and manicure. I’d have my hair done, but natural looking. I’d want Alex to prepare me with a bath, and dress me. I’d have him put my thong underwear on me, and adorn my body with silver earrings and a choker; and of course my ankle bracelet.

If my playmate turned out to be playmates, as in couple, what would I want to see in terms of their chemistry together? Well for starters, they would have to be a very loving couple, who still have passion and respect for each other. If they didn’t have that they probably couldn’t have it for anyone else. I am not sure if we would want a couple who mirror us in temperament and style. I can’t say what we could expect from a couple who might be very different from us. Alex and I are open, friendly, and low key in public. Would we, could we, feed off the energy of a boisterous, and vivacious couple? I think so. I’d like to be around a couple who are funny and have an easy going temperament, but loud people kind of turn me off. Alex and I have touched on whether we would want our playmate(s) to be the take-charge type, or would we want to be the ones leading the development of things. We can’t decide yet.

What would I expect from her on a personality and physical level? She could not be anything like Rosy O’Donnell. I might feel more comfortable if she were a mother closer to my age, with older children, because we would be doing this together for the same reasons. We would need to be on the same level emotionally and maturity-wise. She wouldn’t have to be beautiful, but attractive; someone who takes care of herself. From a looks and personality perspective I think Sandra Bullock comes closest in my preference for a woman lover.

- Angie

What could I envision for playing with a couple? The approach Alex and I are taking on this kind of exploration means that I wouldn’t really want the couple to be overly experienced with swinging, just adventurous and open to trying new things. We’re not looking to swing in the conventional sense, because it would be more of a “three-some, plus one”.

A sexual scenario I love to share with Alex during love making is the woman and I starting in on each other first, then her husband/boyfriend coming in to join us in three-way play. We would lick each other's pussy in a 69, me on top of her, and him fucking me doggy style from behind. What would I want from Alex during play time? Well, I want him there to watch, and wait for my request to come clean up. I would not let him play with himself, because I want him to concentrate on my pleasure, and build his energy for me later. So there would be a period of orgasm denial for Alex. In fact, this is about my play, not Alex’s.

I’ve thought about the longer term picture a bit .Will this be a one time thing, an occasional thing, or regular thing? If a bond has developed with our friend(s) I would want it to be a continuing friendship that revolves around common interests, and just happens to be spiced up with occasional but regular sexual excapades.